Author Topic: ...about a girl... (Read 10715 times)

Will · « **on:** October 17, 2006, 12:30:01 pm »

oh I'm so in love

I consulted with a friend of mine that I should send this girl an SMS to tell her about my feelings cause we are in different schools now and are not in the same shift.
So I sent her an sms and told her how I dunno how to describe the feeling i have for her and that I didn't had the courage to tell her before. So I've snet it and waited.
A couple of mins later she replies and says that she just wants friendship and nothing more because dating and all isn't her thing now( dunnow why) .She also said sorry and got in a smilie

So my question is , should I continue my quest to win her heart ?
Should I just say that it's all fine now and be sortry for the rest of my life that I've passed a chance with this wonderful girl , or just let everything go to hell?

I just wanna see your opinions since I never saw some romantic threads or anything similiar to this on soldatforums.

Iridescent · « **Reply #1 on:** October 17, 2006, 12:33:18 pm »

Be happy that you tried. I'ms orry it didn't work out but thats how life is.
You shouldn't force her onto you. You could hng around her more but she might never 'like' you.
The important part is telling her, its a pain in the ass not telling someone, just eats you away.

At least you didn't get the reply I got once.

me:
I love you

her:
okay then

Will · « **Reply #2 on:** October 17, 2006, 12:46:33 pm »

to bad for you.

The point is that I've kept this inside of me for a long time and I've felt that I'm gonna smash someone if I didn't told her. And that was the hardest part. She knew that something was going on , but telling her was just weird.

I don't want to force her on anything but I heard that she had broken up with her boyfriend sometime ago and I thought she got over it...

Edit: and I got this strange feeling that the message she sent me kinda isn't honest.
Maybe she just wanted to say piss of in a gentler way??

Iridescent · « **Reply #3 on:** October 17, 2006, 12:56:16 pm »

Well I'd give her room. From the message it appears that she still likes you as a friend (obviously) however you may have to ask friends if they think she thinks so. Hard to ask without giving your position away.
I still think you should hang around with her as a friend, it gets annoying as you like her and you can't 'be' with her. But I think that will enfroce the relationship as it is slightly damaged after getting rejected (sorry about the harsh words).
All in all I think you can still be her friend but because I don't actually know her I can't say anything for sure.

Will · « **Reply #4 on:** October 17, 2006, 01:00:48 pm »

seems that you are quite experienced in that area...
too bad you don't have msn , or have you?

Iridescent · « **Reply #5 on:** October 17, 2006, 01:08:05 pm »

Sent you a personal message if you didn't notice.
Continuing my part of the discussion on that.

reckon · « **Reply #6 on:** October 17, 2006, 01:34:34 pm »

You should have confronted her in person, not over a text message.
Its the little things that matter.

Will · « **Reply #7 on:** October 17, 2006, 01:47:23 pm »

Yea but it's kinda hard to reach her now. I have to wait for weekend to meet her and I couldn't wait for that. And it's even more harder face to face

Foley · « **Reply #8 on:** October 17, 2006, 01:55:11 pm »

Keep trying and dont give up

( well, you can do a break when ull accidentally get slapped ).
Try meeting her some more or something

Make friendship with her friends if you know some, then they could tell her that you're their friend. Or something similar.

VijchtiDoodah · « **Reply #9 on:** October 17, 2006, 02:02:06 pm »

Quote from: Will on October 17, 2006, 12:46:33 pm

and I got this strange feeling that the message she sent me kinda isn't honest.

Don't act on that feeling. Even if she said something to you face to face and you didn't think she was being honest, there's a reason why she would be lying to you.

The best you can do is to be her friend. And, since she knows you like her, if she ever develops feelings for you she'll come around. If not, at least you have a friend instead of a stalkee.

There are other fish in the sea, by the way.

Brock · « **Reply #10 on:** October 17, 2006, 02:14:00 pm »

I have no good things to say to you. Can't offer any help at all.

What little love life I have is/was really bad.

Dascoo · « **Reply #11 on:** October 17, 2006, 02:16:33 pm »

I understand why, dating sucks....seriously, I hate it.

karmazon · « **Reply #12 on:** October 17, 2006, 02:27:39 pm »

She replied that way because she doesn't wanna go out with you, but she's too nice to tell you no. How do I know this ? I found the hard way.

XYZ · « **Reply #13 on:** October 17, 2006, 02:34:26 pm »

Move on, because she obviously doesn't want to go out with you. If you don't move on, you're going to pass up on other girls while 'waiting' for this one chick.

Chariot · « **Reply #14 on:** October 17, 2006, 02:45:03 pm »

Maybe ask her out yourself? I think girls find the "Messenger" tactic a little elementary. I was about to ask a girl out the other day and then she starts talking about her boyfriend ): What pisses me off the most is the fact that she always flirts with me.

XYZ · « **Reply #15 on:** October 17, 2006, 02:49:08 pm »

The ultimate way to get a girl is to beat up her boyfriend.

PS: LARRIOT!

Meep. · « **Reply #16 on:** October 17, 2006, 02:54:03 pm »

You could pursue it if you do in fact have a chance. Otherwise, please try not to dwell on it. Tribulation is what you'll gain from that :/. If she doesn't want to be with you in that sense, then there isn't much you can do. So, from what I can see, you have two choices in these predicaments: suffer it, or get over it. Whatever you want to do.

Cookie. · « **Reply #17 on:** October 17, 2006, 03:03:42 pm »

Quote from: VijchtiDoodah on October 17, 2006, 02:02:06 pm

Quote from: Will on October 17, 2006, 12:46:33 pm
and I got this strange feeling that the message she sent me kinda isn't honest.

Don't act on that feeling. Even if she said something to you face to face and you didn't think she was being honest, there's a reason why she would be lying to you.

The best you can do is to be her friend. And, since she knows you like her, if she ever develops feelings for you she'll come around. If not, at least you have a friend instead of a stalkee.

There are other fish in the sea, by the way.

VijchtiDoodah is wise beyond his years, listen to him

jrgp · « **Reply #18 on:** October 17, 2006, 03:09:13 pm »

Just keep on talking to her as a freind. Eventually she will changer her mind about not wanting a bf and if she likes you enough as a friend by then, she might consider to raise your freindship relationship to the next level.

Commander Kitsune · « **Reply #19 on:** October 17, 2006, 03:11:04 pm »

A thread where I'm actually being nice.

Go with what Vijcht said (and as cookie also implied).

Theres this one girl I liked, I asked her plain and simple if she would like to go out with me. She said "I don't know, dating isn't really my thing...". I was patient and left her be to herself. About a month later we went out on a date, and we continue to do so now. Give her time and room to think. She did say "right now" didn't she?

And this is a little easier for me to do, but if you doubt the honesty of her message then ask her if even though she doesn't want to now, if she ever would want to. Not trying to be to pushy, but thats my advice. A broken heart will heal if she turns you down, just a little slowely.

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