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[Twistkill]

I don't understand how I'll EVER meet someone who actually gives 2 flying fucks about me... I have virtually no self-esteem, confidence, or the ability to strike a conversation with anyone. Like, seriously. I keep to myself all the time, and everyone ignores me. If someone else in class looks sad, everyone ask if they're feeling okay, but if I look like I'm sad, no one ever asks me how I'm doing. Like anyone ever cares about me...

I barely have a personality or any interests besides Soldat and a few PS2 games... I hardly feel human anymore... I feel like a shell of a man... I live in a bad house with an asshole dad (No details, or else this post will be an essay) and a mom that treats me like I have no responsibility or choice of my own... I weigh 240 lbs, I have acne, I can't buy any good clothes or shoes, and I'm not attractive at all, and from what I've noticed in my school: all the girls care about looks and are quite materialistic. It's just not gonna happen for me. And, considering my school is really small (About 110 high school kids or less), everyone will know if I'm going out with someone there, which is probably not gonna happen anyways... no one knows what I go through... no one ever cares.... so how in the fucking hell will a woman care? Blah. Possibly the only good thing I can say about me, and it's a stretch: I'm nice. There, that's it. And, I can have a temper when I want to. <_<

I can't even continue on, parents are fucking bitching at me to go to bed right now... fucking school is another fucking problem in this supposed life I have... I'll continue tomorrow... just know that I am in desperate need of a woman who cares about me/loves me for who I am...

[The Bone Collector]

I don't understand how I'll EVER meet someone who actually gives 2 flying ****s about me... I have virtually no self-esteem, confidence, or the ability to strike a conversation with anyone. Like, seriously. I keep to myself all the time, and everyone ignores me. If someone else in class looks sad, everyone ask if they're feeling okay, but if I look like I'm sad, no one ever asks me how I'm doing. Like anyone ever cares about me...

I barely have a personality or any interests besides Soldat and a few PS2 games... I hardly feel human anymore... I feel like a shell of a man... I live in a bad house with an asshole dad (No details, or else this post will be an essay) and a mom that treats me like I have no responsibility or choice of my own... I weigh 240 lbs, I have acne, I can't buy any good clothes or shoes, and I'm not attractive at all, and from what I've noticed in my school: all the girls care about looks and are quite materialistic. It's just not gonna happen for me. And, considering my school is really small (About 110 high school kids or less), everyone will know if I'm going out with someone there, which is probably not gonna happen anyways... no one knows what I go through... no one ever cares.... so how in the ****ing hell will a woman care? Blah. Possibly the only good thing I can say about me, and it's a stretch: I'm nice. There, that's it. And, I can have a temper when I want to. <_<

I can't even continue on, parents are ****ing *****ing at me to go to bed right now... ****ing school is another ****ing problem in this supposed life I have... I'll continue tomorrow

Sounds like the typical emo whine to me...but still...I'm basicly the same in these ways:
I keep to myself
I prefer spending time on the computer than downtown
I have no social life....

and all that ****. Yet, in my time on the computer, I found a girl...and yes, I'm meeting up with her just after christmas...

Basicly, no matter what you have against you Twistie...turn it around, use it to your advantage!

I am in desperate need of a woman who cares about me/loves me for who I am...

Exactly what I tell myself....

[Demonic]

And that's exactly what's keeping you guys behind. If you're desperate about something, it becomes pathetic, and you'll be in a losing fight - find other goals in life, and the rest will come in time.

Have too much free time? Study something that interests you, learn something usefull, find a hobby, work out at home. Basically, try anything that is considered as self improvement.

Feeling down? Think. If someone you do not know nor really care for acts all dark and soddy, will you care about his problem? No you won't. And that's what others think about you - swallow your problems, work them out as you can. Life won't stop in any case, it goes on, and you have to make the best of it.

Have no self esteem? Come on. What's keeping you back? If you say something silly, will others think less of you? No they won't, you'll just be showing another aspect of yourself. You don't really have to give a flying shit about what others think as long as you're satisfied with what you do and how you live. Everyone else's opinion should not be a priority - infact, as I've said above, the more you try to "look better", the bigger you'll fall. Go on your own way, and others will soon see that "This guy ain't such a joke afterall".

Btw, looks like we'll soon need a "Desperate Teen" help forum in here, the lounge is getting over run! ^^

[Liber Lupus]

About acne. I remember a guy from my school who had mild acne (it was seen from far away at least). And everytime I saw him he was confident and girls talked to him. It's like he didn't have acne at all. Just start treating it and be confident.

[Will]

Twistkill. I know how you're feeling. I didn't have acne and stuff but I was overweight. And I still am , although my height has saved me.

You say that you just want a girl that would love you for who you are and not care about your looks. But would you do the same?? Would you accept her if she's different??

I never cared for a girls looks so much. I couldnt be with an really ugly girl but if she's normal and she has some virtues then it's okay. I always had crush-ons for different girls. Like now , she is very pretty and cute , but she is also considered weird by some people. I don't gve a damn about that and it's my philosophy that brought me where I am now. I found a good bunch of freinds a my highschool( I study electrotechnics so there are 34 males and no females in my class) and I am one of more "dominant" guys there. Try to stand-up to those bully kids and join the alternative cause comrade .  Sure they will laugh at you but stick to yourself and they will see that you don't give a damn about what they think about you and they will eventually give up. I gotta warn you tho , this is a long process and you'll soetimes think that it isn't worth it. The stu that got me thru elementary school was music. I was different because I was the only one listening to metal and people respect me now for not changing my lifestyle all the time and se me as an experienced individual. Also I know alot of people that are very older than me so it's not a big deal if I get into trouble with some guys because I probably know their parents 

[The Bone Collector]

^ this guy is a fucking genius

[Cookie.]

Exactly, and relationships arn't just about sex....

But its a big and important part of one

[The Bone Collector]

Exactly, and relationships arn't just about sex....

But its a big and important part of one

True, but theres plenty more to do in a relationship....unless you and your partner are a bunch of horny rabbits

[Spasm]

If you're desperate about something, it becomes pathetic, and you'll be in a losing fight - find other goals in life, and the rest will come in time.

This is the only thing any guy needs to know.

...

Most women won't even think about getting involved with an uneducated, family type man.  Think about what you wish for 

[Will]

just don't underestimate them(girls duh...) they have brains too (and probably more than half of guys here because they don't waste time on soldat).

^ this guy is a ****ing ubercool-ultimate-megablasta genius

fixed

[karmazon]

just don't underestimate them(girls duh...) they have brains too

No, they don't. At least not a logical one.

[Twistkill]

Sounds like the typical emo whine to me...

I can assure you I am not emo, and although it is certainly kinda whiny, I'm not exaggerating or making up any of this...

It's still really hard, you know... although the other tips in this thread are great, they just don't work for me because all my problems are inter-linked... and even though I spend most of my time on the computer, it's even more sad that I find nothing to do on the internet besides go on the Metanet forums and these ones. (And of course, play Soldat) *sigh*

[Commander Kitsune]

No, they don't. At least not a logical one.

Then you haven't seen a real girl.

[Will]

dude all meh typing was for nothing then??. I almost broke my fingers  typing it so fats but meh If I could do it  so could you . And I didnt have anyone to give me advices


                       May the force be with ya dude

[PANZERCATWAGON]

I am in desperate need of a woman who cares about me/loves me for who I am...

Exactly what I tell myself....

There's someone out there for everyone... 

Exactly, and relationships arn't just about sex....

But its a big and important part of one

True, but theres plenty more to do in a relationship....unless you and your partner are a bunch of horny rabbits

That's right, sex is a bonus to a relationship, not a basis. Unless you have a sex buddy, but I think that's slightly different

[papercut]

Careful guys, Please understand that wanting to get laid doesn't isntantly make me a horny *******. I just want to know what I should do in case I feel the time has truly come.

@karmazon- my girlfriend definitely has a logical brain.

@The Bone Collector- and all that ****. Yet, in my time on the computer, I found a girl...and yes, I'm meeting up with her just after christmas...

Don't try to pick up chicks online, It will rarely pay off. You know how easy it is to lie on the internet? I don't know about you, you may assume differently, but I'd feel kinda... sad in a way if I had to resort to picking up chicks online.

@Twistkill- yeah it does sound a little whiney. However, I used to be in that kinda situaion, but I overcame it in a few ways. First of all, you said your dad is an ass, and that you could write an essay about it? Tell people about it! Just every other day, if there is a conversation going on between a group of girls of a guy who's being an ass, just kinda include yourself and say "My dad is a lot like that." and then tell a story about some experience you had with your dad. If you can tell stories that are worth telling, then you'll immediately have some new friends, and evidently get more attention.

I used to get very little attention a few years back because all I did was play doom and soldat and stuff in between. It would be embarrasing to bring up soldat in front of girls because they obviously wouldnt care. However, I've been going to parties and hanging out with some new people and having lots of experiences worth sharing to other people. Since then I've been noticed by tons of people, and that of which looking sad will get people to worry about you and give you attention. I'm pretty sure the key to it is having stories to tell. I know that even myself likes to hang out with people that have good stories to tell.

I've nticed that several of the kids in my classes that don't really have any experiences to share are often not heeded to by anyone. So just share stories and it will help you a lot.

Edit: Ugh just noticed that you said "virtually no ability to strike a conversation with anybody". I dunno, I guess try working at it. I also reccomend trying out new hobbies to get you off of soldat. I play soldat like once or twice a week now since I started:

-Skateboarding
-Hacky Sack
-Making Graffiti Stencils
-Making T-shirt logos with said stencils
-Making Graffiti with said stencils =P
-Sewing Band patches onto my pants and shirts (this helps turn crappy clothes into awesome clothes)
-Writing governmental hatred speeches and opinions on my things
-Listening to music
-Watching comedy stand-up
-Reading books that my girlfriend reccomended to me, and newspaper artiles about war, and political debates.

Maybe these things won't interest you yet, I know I just didn't want to try at it before, but now I'm back into it and glad I did it.

[The Bone Collector]

^exactly. Follow that, and your fine Twistie

offtopic:

I think all world wars should be settled by Soldat Team Deathmatches.

lol. I agree

[Cookie.]

Exactly, and relationships arn't just about sex....

But its a big and important part of one

True, but theres plenty more to do in a relationship....unless you and your partner are a bunch of horny rabbits

We are :p

[Wolf_Man]

Well with the girl i think is cute and all (witch she is) we are very good friends, and she says im her best guy friend so yea. and if it wasent for her i would have no friends at all at my school right now, and i have very low self asteem and its hard for me to talk to her if shes around like 4 of her friends but now its getting easy because im starting to get to be good friends wif sum kids in my grade. *yay me*

[UGK]

Well with the girl i think is cute and all (witch she is) we are very good friends, and she says im her best guy friend so yea. and if it wasent for her i would have no friends at all at my school right now, and i have very low self asteem and its hard for me to talk to her if shes around like 4 of her friends but now its getting easy because im starting to get to be good friends wif sum kids in my grade. *yay me*

Yea man ur gonna B rolling in teh pussy now.