How to get chix, yo.

[Sticky]

Well with the girl i think is cute and all (witch she is) we are very good friends, and she says im her best guy friend so yea. and if it wasent for her i would have no friends at all at my school right now, and i have very low self asteem and its hard for me to talk to her if shes around like 4 of her friends but now its getting easy because im starting to get to be good friends wif sum kids in my grade. *yay me*

Congratulations, you're in the "friend zone.".

Sometimes, you only need the simplest things to get girls. I complemented someone on her hat, and got her number 5 minutes later after a bit of chit-chat.

[Twistkill]

@Twistkill- yeah it does sound a little whiney. However, I used to be in that kinda situaion, but I overcame it in a few ways. First of all, you said your dad is an ass, and that you could write an essay about it? Tell people about it! Just every other day, if there is a conversation going on between a group of girls of a guy who's being an ass, just kinda include yourself and say "My dad is a lot like that." and then tell a story about some experience you had with your dad. If you can tell stories that are worth telling, then you'll immediately have some new friends, and evidently get more attention.



I used to get very little attention a few years back because all I did was play doom and soldat and stuff in between. It would be embarrasing to bring up soldat in front of girls because they obviously wouldnt care. However, I've been going to parties and hanging out with some new people and having lots of experiences worth sharing to other people. Since then I've been noticed by tons of people, and that of which looking sad will get people to worry about you and give you attention. I'm pretty sure the key to it is having stories to tell. I know that even myself likes to hang out with people that have good stories to tell.

I've nticed that several of the kids in my classes that don't really have any experiences to share are often not heeded to by anyone. So just share stories and it will help you a lot.

Edit: Ugh just noticed that you said "virtually no ability to strike a conversation with anybody". I dunno, I guess try working at it. I also reccomend trying out new hobbies to get you off of soldat. I play soldat like once or twice a week now since I started:

-Skateboarding
-Hacky Sack
-Making Graffiti Stencils
-Making T-shirt logos with said stencils
-Making Graffiti with said stencils =P
-Sewing Band patches onto my pants and shirts (this helps turn crappy clothes into awesome clothes)
-Writing governmental hatred speeches and opinions on my things
-Listening to music
-Watching comedy stand-up
-Reading books that my girlfriend reccomended to me, and newspaper artiles about war, and political debates.

Maybe these things won't interest you yet, I know I just didn't want to try at it before, but now I'm back into it and glad I did it.

Hmm. And did I also mention that all the girls in my school hang out in packs? Seriously. Almost all of them are in groups of 3, 4, or sometimes 5. It's not easy, you know... I can't just walk up and start **** like that, it's just not me... they'll also ignore me, if not they'll call me a weirdo or **** like that, and then they'll most likely walk away talking about me behind my back. No exaggeration or pessimistic view here, I'm serious.

And, all the shit my dad does are the littlest insignificant outbursts for no goddamn reason... fucking hell, man... they're all the little shit details everyday that I don't even remember because they're so many of them...

I did mention that most (read: all) of the girls in school care about looks, so all of this is great advice, but it most likely won't work. And please do not make me go into detail about my school itself, either, man... you don't want to know what it's like, trust me.

Oh yeah... I love comedy in general, but other than that... nothing. I did say I'm not interested in anything, man... seriously, I barely feel human... I feel heartless and cold with no personality... nothing interests me at all... All I wish I could do every day is sleep, eat/drink, go the bathroom, watch TV/play PS2, and go on my computer all day and forget the world, because the world is against me... but it's not gonna happen because that's not how life works... and I can't even go on anymore, this is making my clinical depression twice as bad as it is...

[{LAW} Gamer_2k4]

Sometimes, you only need the simplest things to get girls. I complemented someone on her hat, and got her number 5 minutes later after a bit of chit-chat.

That's true.  I held a door for a girl once, and we ended up talking all the way back to the dorms.  Now she smiles at me every time we see each other.

Oh yeah... I love comedy in general, but other than that... nothing. I did say I'm not interested in anything, man... seriously, I barely feel human... I feel heartless and cold with no personality... nothing interests me at all... All I wish I could do every day is sleep, eat/drink, go the bathroom, watch TV/play PS2, and go on my computer all day and forget the world, because the world is against me... but it's not gonna happen because that's not how life works... and I can't even go on anymore, this is making my clinical depression twice as bad as it is...

Well then go out and do stuff.  If you don't have interests, find some.  Join some sports or clubs at your school.  You don't even have to stay in them, but at least check them out.  Also, try going to some athletic events at your school.  You'll be in a social environment, hanging out with kids you know, and getting entertained.  Go to dances if your school has them.  The first time I went to a dance, a girl actually asked me to dance.  I wasn't even doing anything; just standing around where all the "cool" people were.  A while later, I ended up asking her out.

And if you're overweight and don't like it, I've got news for you: It's not going to fix itself.  Yes, I know I sound like a jerk, but it's the truth.  Prior to high school, I was overweight and weak.  Four years later, I'm a conference champion in wrestling and in pretty decent shape.  This wouldn't have happened if I hadn't joined two sports (that I had never played before) or went to the weight room every day.  Prior to high school, I had no social skills at all.  A comment of "I like your shoes" would have resulted in me saying "I like them too.  That's why I got them." (yikes)  But throughout high school, I tried hanging out with people, going to events and parties, and actually doing something besides sitting in front of the computer.  Now I'm very self-confident and apparently somewhat popular as well; last year I was nominated to be on our homecoming court.

Yes, this probably sounds like bragging, to some extent.  But I'm just trying to give examples of what could happen if you put forth the effort.

[Chakra]

Everything karmazon said is true. He knows this kind of stuff.

All queers do.

!oh

[papercut]

Everything karmazon said is true. He knows this kind of stuff.

All queers do.

!oh

rofl Ru

Oh yeah... I love comedy in general, but other than that... nothing. I did say I'm not interested in anything, man... seriously, I barely feel human... I feel heartless and cold with no personality... nothing interests me at all... All I wish I could do every day is sleep, eat/drink, go the bathroom, watch TV/play PS2, and go on my computer all day and forget the world, because the world is against me... but it's not gonna happen because that's not how life works... and I can't even go on anymore, this is making my clinical depression twice as bad as it is...

The world's not against you, I'm still on your team =)
But seriously dude, You cant just believe that you are nothing. You just gotta keep on keepin' on (thank you joe dirt)

What law gamer mentioned is right. A little hard, but it's near impossible to make it any lighter. I've never been overweight, but I still suffer from a lack of exercise. It didnt make me fatter, it just made me weak in general. I evantually decided that it would probably be a good idea to start runnin laps around the block. I've been doing a lot more walking around the neighborhood, and a lot more jogging on my own time. I kept to that habit everyday for a few months, and I was already beginning to notice difference. Jogging for a half hour everyday really isn't that hard, and its uber effective. Once you start feeling better, you begin to get interested in other things like I did. like hacky sack or skateboarding.

I just want you to know that the best trick to lying is forcing yourself to believe that it is true. Your forcing your brain to believe that you are worthless, cold, lacks personality, and half-hearted. Don't do that. Make yourself believe that you are cooler than you appear to be. Make yourself believe that you are THE MAN.

Hmm. And did I also mention that all the girls in my school hang out in packs? Seriously. Almost all of them are in groups of 3, 4, or sometimes 5. It's not easy, you know... I can't just walk up and start **** like that, it's just not me... they'll also ignore me, if not they'll call me a weirdo or **** like that, and then they'll most likely walk away talking about me behind my back. No exaggeration or pessimistic view here, I'm serious.

I met a lot of girls that were in packs. They aren't the ones I dated, but I do know them and am good friends with them. It really isn't that hard to join in as you make it sound. If they call you a weirdo, just ask them why, or better yet, make fun of them back, but laugh about it like its a joke. (Taking crap from other people makes you a biitch.)

I was going to say to interrupt them and ask why theyre talkin about you if you can tell they are talkin about you behind your back. Though you may just come off as nosy to them, or even make you look like a stalker. To be honest I don't really know what you do about that.

Currently I've been having trouble holding a conversation, or worse yet, starting one. All i can tell you is to just say whatever comes to mind.  Lately Ive been having a habit of just keeping what I think to myself because it could make me look stupid. I have conversations with myself in my head. Like if I think of somehing to say, then I try to predict what they would say, instead of actually just trying. I'm trying to break out of the habit, but it's tough. However, I'm able to just speak out with some specific people.

I say just ignore what people think of you. Make sure you express that you don't care about what people think about you, you're just gonna be whoever you want yourself to be. That's why I became a punk rock dude. I love the music, their beliefs reflect mine, and I dress however I feel looks cool, and i don't care whether people want to think of me as weird, because I believe everyone is at the same social level, even if they think different. Most of the time I make it look cool and not weird anyway.

So just say whatever comes to mind, even if it's insulting. Just know to tone it down if it really gets them mad. If it does make them mad, just be like "hey, relax. I'm just being a diick I'm sorry and I regret it now". Also besure to not force yourself to believe what other people tell you. If they tell you you're a weirdo, dont just be like "yeah you're right, I'm gonna go play soldat". You gotta show that you don't care about what they think of you. Standing up for yourself will get you respect. Maybe not frrom all, but at least from someone.

I also reccomend that you don't tell us that it most likely won't work. If you've never tried it, you don't know that it won't work. You're just assuming it won't. Just give it a shot. Just don't do anything that has a high probability of getting you killed. Like putting ammonia and bleach in a fog machine (zexus).

It's better to do something than nothing. You only have one life, you better do what you can with it.

[Twistkill]

Join some sports or clubs at your school.  You don't even have to stay in them, but at least check them out.  Also, try going to some athletic events at your school.  You'll be in a social environment, hanging out with kids you know, and getting entertained.  Go to dances if your school has them.  The first time I went to a dance, a girl actually asked me to dance.  I wasn't even doing anything; just standing around where all the "cool" people were.  A while later, I ended up asking her out.

No sports, clubs, dances, or any special events of any kind. School is really poor and cheap. End of story.

And if you're overweight and don't like it, I've got news for you: It's not going to fix itself.  Yes, I know I sound like a jerk, but it's the truth.  Prior to high school, I was overweight and weak.  Four years later, I'm a conference champion in wrestling and in pretty decent shape.  This wouldn't have happened if I hadn't joined two sports (that I had never played before) or went to the weight room every day.  Prior to high school, I had no social skills at all.  A comment of "I like your shoes" would have resulted in me saying "I like them too.  That's why I got them." (yikes)  But throughout high school, I tried hanging out with people, going to events and parties, and actually doing something besides sitting in front of the computer.  Now I'm very self-confident and apparently somewhat popular as well; last year I was nominated to be on our homecoming court.

I never get compliments, I only give them. -.- And I can't simply start exercising; I can't do anything when I get home at 4:00 PM because of homework, it gets dark like around 5, and after my dad gets home at 4:30 me and my mom aren't allowed to go anywhere. I usually have to help my dad go paint houses on the weekends. If not, he ALWAYS does something to "improve" the house. Our house is garbage.

Yes, this probably sounds like bragging, to some extent.

Whatever... it must be nice to be soo successful and soo popular and soo in shape... <_< All my problems are inter-linked...

I just want you to know that the best trick to lying is forcing yourself to believe that it is true. Your forcing your brain to believe that you are worthless, cold, lacks personality, and half-hearted. Don't do that. Make yourself believe that you are cooler than you appear to be. Make yourself believe that you are THE MAN.

Must be great to be able to that when you actually have self-esteem and stuff to back it up with. I wonder what that's like? Guess I'll never know...

All of this shit isn't easy to deal with or even attempt to fix you know... but apparantly you guys don't care, you just say "Deal with it or fix your problems"

[Wolf_Man]

hers? eh no she dont like me, shes liked 2 other guys who i could figure out lol but yea, and i got a GF and i see her ever summer i stay night wif her and we stay up till like 3-4 am :D:D
plus the girl im best friend wif we've been friend for 3 years (

[The Bone Collector]

Join some sports or clubs at your school.  You don't even have to stay in them, but at least check them out.  Also, try going to some athletic events at your school.  You'll be in a social environment, hanging out with kids you know, and getting entertained.  Go to dances if your school has them.  The first time I went to a dance, a girl actually asked me to dance.  I wasn't even doing anything; just standing around where all the "cool" people were.  A while later, I ended up asking her out.

No sports, clubs, dances, or any special events of any kind. School is really poor and cheap. End of story.

And if you're overweight and don't like it, I've got news for you: It's not going to fix itself.  Yes, I know I sound like a jerk, but it's the truth.  Prior to high school, I was overweight and weak.  Four years later, I'm a conference champion in wrestling and in pretty decent shape.  This wouldn't have happened if I hadn't joined two sports (that I had never played before) or went to the weight room every day.  Prior to high school, I had no social skills at all.  A comment of "I like your shoes" would have resulted in me saying "I like them too.  That's why I got them." (yikes)  But throughout high school, I tried hanging out with people, going to events and parties, and actually doing something besides sitting in front of the computer.  Now I'm very self-confident and apparently somewhat popular as well; last year I was nominated to be on our homecoming court.

I never get compliments, I only give them. -.- And I can't simply start exercising; I can't do anything when I get home at 4:00 PM because of homework, it gets dark like around 5, and after my dad gets home at 4:30 me and my mom aren't allowed to go anywhere. I usually have to help my dad go paint houses on the weekends. If not, he ALWAYS does something to "improve" the house. Our house is garbage.

Yes, this probably sounds like bragging, to some extent.

Whatever... it must be nice to be soo successful and soo popular and soo in shape... <_< All my problems are inter-linked...

I just want you to know that the best trick to lying is forcing yourself to believe that it is true. Your forcing your brain to believe that you are worthless, cold, lacks personality, and half-hearted. Don't do that. Make yourself believe that you are cooler than you appear to be. Make yourself believe that you are THE MAN.

Must be great to be able to that when you actually have self-esteem and stuff to back it up with. I wonder what that's like? Guess I'll never know...

All of this **** isn't easy to deal with or even attempt to fix you know... but apparantly you guys don't care, you just say "Deal with it or fix your problems"

I'd also like to say that I AM EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE, and the reason I ignore all your advice is because I'm to lazy to IMPROVE MYSELF.

Fixed.

[Twistkill]

Fixed.

Okay, fine... I'll let this whole situation go if you will stop it right here. Thanks for helping.

[Death MachineX350]

Lol that was good for a laugh.

[{LAW} Gamer_2k4]

All of this **** isn't easy to deal with or even attempt to fix you know... but apparantly you guys don't care, you just say "Deal with it or fix your problems"

I told you, it took me 4 years to improve myself, and I'm still working on it.  Obviously this doesn't happen right away.  You say you don't have time for exercise, but why can't you do pushups or situps or something?  Maybe you could buy some dumbells and work out with those.  Maybe you could bike to school, or get up early and jog.  It may be as simple as just watching what you eat.

And please don't tell me that your dad is causing all of this.  My dad left when I was 8 and I haven't seen him since.  My mom had to support two kids on a teacher's salary.  That's not exactly a perfect life.  But I made the best of it, and you can too.

Must be great to be able to that when you actually have self-esteem and stuff to back it up with. I wonder what that's like? Guess I'll never know...

Where do you think self-esteem comes from?  Seriously.  It's not like "Hey, life sucks.  I think I'll get self esteem so it can be fun."  You get self-esteem from doing things.  "Guess I'll never know" is a defeatist attitude.  You'll get yourself into a vicious cycle, where you don't do things because you don't have self-esteem, and you don't have self-esteem because you don't do things.  No one is going to walk up to you and say "Hey, I want to be your friend."  You have to put forth the effort.

Remember, I'm not saying it will be simple.  But you won't get anywhere if you don't try.

[n00bface]

and after my dad gets home at 4:30 me and my mom aren't allowed to go anywhere

Haha wow, holy shit.  Your dad is my HERO!

For interests, there's some easy things to start with; heritage.  Heritage is like the basis for every other interest!  It can get you interested in music, festivals, sports, etc. etc., and it will definitely give you something to talk about.

[The Bone Collector]

<PURE AWESOMENESS>

Take his advice.....Don't ever say "Aww....it won't happen to me"...cause you never know untill you try!

[Twistkill]

Law Gamer: I am kinda chatty in school (Teachers are quite lax, so we sometimes get to stand around and just talk after we get our work done in a few classes) but I feel like I'm not getting anywhere. No one is even considering talking to me, I somehow have to start it, which I really can't do. What the fuck am I gonna say? "Oh, the weather outside is nice"? <_< You just don't get it...

Great advice. I'll consider it, maybe not follow through with it, but whatever. I am usually cheery and happy most of the time and I can deal with the problems, but every once in a while I'll go through this... I realize how much shit I've got going on right now... just understand that please...

[papercut]

You gotta force yourself to believe that you aren't in deep **** and that it can be overcome. It's really just a mind trap that you're not getting out of. You keep thinking negative more often than not and you just gotta stop.

People don't often come to me to talk to me either, I kinda have to jump in with other people. Good conversation starters is to ask a question.

"Did you ever notice how <blah blah blah>?"
"Why do <blah blah blah> do this"
"What would happen if <blah blah blah>"
"What does <blah blah blah> mean?"

You might want to ask what people are doing after school today, or this weekend. Ask what class they are going to next. Ask what your doing after you graduate. Or simply mention anything that is bothering you.

Don't tell us we don't understand because nothing is impossible. People thought the Wright brothers were crazy when they were trying to build the world's very first flying machine. People doubted them. But nowadays people are traveling over seas in hours via airplanes.

I'm sorry If i'm comin off as a jerk, I'm trying to motivate you. I'm really trying to help you more than hurt you.

[Dascoo]

Hey, did you know if you have an emo slice, more girls talk to you? Funnyness.

[PANZERCATWAGON]

<PURE AWESOMENESS>

Take his advice.....Don't ever say "Aww....it won't happen to me"...cause you never know untill you try!

Exactly. I find it confusing when people say they aren't going to do something just because it might not happen. What do you have to lose.

[The Bone Collector]

Random Fact:

Kamakarzon = Dr. Phil of Soldat Forums

Just thought I'd add that

[echo_trail]

Oh.. Time to turn off the teli.

[a-4-year-old]

Buy beer, find girl, give girl beer.