Do you keep low profile in Read Life?

[pavliko]

So..
Lets talk about why there are people who keep a low profile in RF and why do they do that.
Lets say some people keep low profile because they are 4Chan`tards,hiding something or just sick.
Anyway they are special in some way..

Let's discuss.

[Demonic]

read life? wat?

Also, the more time you spend on the internet the likely that your social skills are sub-par. Throw in major time waster sites like 4chan and whatnot and it's an even sharper category.

That's not called being special. That's called being too lame to change your shit situation.

[Dascoo]

I have no idea what Pav is talking about so I'll just continue from Demonic.

I spend hours on 4chan and I have no social life.

Respek.

[Graham]

I have always been "low." Partially due to some social problems. I am not entirely comfortable around crowds. If I have someone I know really well I can relax somewhat. Usually when people first meet me they are put off by how quiet I am or just don't like me. I have to warm up to people most of the time. A lot of people don't have enough patience for a person like me. Still I end up with way more friends then I really want, go figure.

[Horve]

I have no friends and no family. I feed off of others' fears, hate and pain, for I am s**t, just like you. Wise human filth stays away from me. I'm nothing and a nobody, yet infinite and everything at the same time. I see no more value in morality than in any other petty invention of some imperfect mortals. Ooh the razors, angst and pain. Ooh the suffering, the tears and the drama. Ooh the hypocrites, imbeciles and hasty-to-judge ***hats, trolls, mongrels, kids and wankers who always have something to say just because they think they have something to say and truly believe that they are too good for others and good enough for themselves as they are now - I wanted to tell you that I love you with all my stone, for you truly deserve to live, breed, eat, sleep and s**t.

[L[0ne]R]

Not exactly a low profile.. I don't hide from people - I just don't do anything to keep them interested. In other words - I'm boring. And to me - they're just as boring. Our definitions of "fun" are too different. Small talk, drunk parties, loud and crowdy movie theaters, just randomly goofing off - not exactly the way I like to spend time. And now that I think about it.. I can't think of any ways I can have fun with people in real world. :S
Humans are so boring.

Also, with english as my second language and with lack of communication with people in real world.. I kinda suck at talking in general. So sometimes I'm just being shy.

[Blacksheepboy]

Partially due to some social problems.

I'm going to vote that it has more to do with personal problems, like problems with your "inner self." These are undo-able, so it has nothing to do with "social problems" (implying that society has a fault in it).

I'm boring.

At least you recognize that you have some fault in it (when in all actuality, you, and no one else, is entirely to blame for your social situation).


Ugh, don't get me started. I could easily go off on how people use things (addictions/jobs/whatever) to escape people, and how you could easily be in 100% control of any given social situation. First comes understanding how social encounters work. Then, through working hard and it (and failing a lot considering that a lot of people are starting from the bottom), social encounters will become addicting and fun and natural regardless of what you look like or sound like (although cleaning yourself up is never a bad idea).

[jrgp]

I really like the friends I have and enjoy hanging out with them. Aside from that, people rarely notice me unless they're in a situation that places them with me, like with a group project in school. If I'm motivated, I'll befriend them, otherwise I'll just be monotonous.

And otherwise I like being anonymous in real life.

[L[0ne]R]

Partially due to some social problems.

I'm going to vote that it has more to do with personal problems, like problems with your "inner self." These are undo-able, so it has nothing to do with "social problems" (implying that society has a fault in it).

I'm boring.

At least you recognize that you have some fault in it (when in all actuality, you, and no one else, is entirely to blame for your social situation).

Well, sometimes it really is society's fault. It doesn't always depend on each person alone - society has a big effect on people, especially at early age. Sometimes society shapes person's character before he learns to shape it himself.

Not talking about my own case though. I know I'm not popular among people, but I don't need to be and so I'm not trying to. Perhaps I could get along with people easier if I tried, but to me it's not really worth it.

[Blue-ninja]

BSB, that's not a bad thing at all. Some people choose not to socialize with other people because they find them either boring or have nothing in common with or to share interest with, and that's a perfectly valid reason.

People like me are energized by their own inner worlds, and that's not a bad thing at all; it's just another characteristic of introvertism when everything else is boring and the world you're in is not. Social encounters may not be a problem, but it won't be fun either (because no one in your immediate living area is interesting enough for you to strike up a conversation with).

Being a introvert doesn't mean that you're a shy person, or one that is usually uncomfortable with social situations. Extroverts may have a hard time understanding this, as they're the ones that find the world around them fun, not the world in them. However, relationships have been struck with introvert-extrovert couples before, but they will usually continue to be frustrated with each other's viewing of the world.

Hence, my shoddy explanation. Sorry, but that argument really felt one-sided. [EDIT: Loner's got it]

[Blacksheepboy]

Early age social conditioning. A screwed up family system (divorce/overbearing fathers/frenetic mothers etc.) = socially incomplete/unstable children, with few exceptions. Of course, later in life, these things are no excuse for not fixing yourself up.

[Graham]

I'm going to vote that it has more to do with personal problems, like problems with your "inner self." These are undo-able, so it has nothing to do with "social problems" (implying that society has a fault in it).

Social problems as in socializing, not society ....ing.

[L[0ne]R]

Early age social conditioning. A screwed up family system (divorce/overbearing fathers/frenetic mothers etc.) = socially incomplete/unstable children, with few exceptions. Of course, later in life, these things are no excuse for not fixing yourself up.

The problem is - it takes just as much to even realise that you need to fix yourself up, and takes even more to learn how to do that. Not to mention actually fixing yourself up once you get over first 2 stages.
With no support (friends) chances of that happening are rather slim.

[Blacksheepboy]

Social encounters may not be a problem, but it won't be fun either (because no one in your immediate living area is interesting enough for you to strike up a conversation with). 1

Being a introvert doesn't mean that you're a shy person, or one that is usually uncomfortable with social situations. 2

@1 Very true. Socially interesting and "with it" people can be rare.

@2 Another true one. I have personally experienced this, but I'm kinda a hybrid. As a kid under 11, my mind was very happy wondering. In consequence, I talked less, listened/observed more. I was a kid; didn't know any different. Then smack! middle school. From then on, I forced myself into extroversion.
From this experience, I guess I've simply assumed that other people can do it as well.

The problem is - it takes just as much to even realise that you need to fix yourself up, and takes even more to learn how to do that. Not to mention actually fixing yourself up once you get over first 2 stages.
With no support (friends) chances of that happening are rather slim.

Hella correct. Realization is the big one, then having "mentors" to help in carrying you through the rest.