Screwed...

[LeetFidle]

i dont wait to get laid. thats never my goal. it was a growing love twards her. just that night was what made me feel this way...its not just "cuddling", we didnt sleep all night so we talked.

[echo_trail]

Point still stands. Move on, mate.

[Blacksheepboy]

I was told once that marrying for love was foolish. And this statement came from a story of a man who married a lady 15 years older than him because she had lots of money (the old lady didn't have any family to pass the money on to). They were actually very damn happy because they both knew how to loving deal with each other. You see, the old lady evaluated the guy's personality for a couple months or something like that.

THE GIST IS that they married because they were compatible, not because of love. The love actually came afterward. [this story comes from the 30's, uh... yup]

OF COURSE THIS IS ALL ASSUMING THAT YOU'RE LIKE, "WAIT, MIRRAAGEE PURHAPS?"

[L[0ne]R]

Just keep being a good trustworthy friend who's always there for her. Perhaps soon she'll realize that you're more to her than "just friend".
Though people don't always know what they have until it's gone, maybe she doesn't even realize what you mean to her and takes your support for granted.

Saying something straight to her face might be too sudden and won't do much IMHO. She must love you because she loves you, not because you confessed to her.


I'm not the one to give advice though. I'm just sharing my thoughts.

[LeetFidle]

thanks everyone....the "move on" advice i was expecting, but im lookin for other options.

[jrgp]

thanks everyone....the "move on" advice i was expecting, but im lookin for other options.

Maybe the reason why she's a lesbo is that she was abused as a younger child? Maybe you can educate her in the ways of respectable gentlemen and ideally even end up getting her hetero again?

[LeetFidle]

i dont think thats what it is....she has a perfectly fine family.

[jrgp]

i dont think thats what it is....she has a perfectly fine family.

I think you should confront her then. Tell her how you feel about her, and try to at least get a definite answer on what her orientation is.

[-Major-]

thanks everyone....the "move on" advice i was expecting, but im lookin for other options.

Maybe the reason why she's a lesbo is that she was abused as a younger child? Maybe you can educate her in the ways of respectable gentlemen and ideally even end up getting her hetero again?

lol, a lesbian is a lesbian. a person with a childhood trauma will probably avoid anything that has to do with it.

[L[0ne]R]

thanks everyone....the "move on" advice i was expecting, but im lookin for other options.

Maybe the reason why she's a lesbo is that she was abused as a younger child? Maybe you can educate her in the ways of respectable gentlemen and ideally even end up getting her hetero again?

Eh, maybe it's just me, but I imagine most lesbians just think that girls understand each other better, so why bother with guys? Maybe all they need is to trust guys a bit more, that's all.

[LeetFidle]

im not going to lie, guys are gross and usually disrespectful xD

[L[0ne]R]

im not going to lie, guys are gross and usually disrespectful xD

Well, girls are usually brainless s**ts too.
But there are good girls too, and same goes for guys. Stupidity, disrespect and all other bad traits aren't really gender-dependent.

[-Major-]

thanks everyone....the "move on" advice i was expecting, but im lookin for other options.

Maybe the reason why she's a lesbo is that she was abused as a younger child? Maybe you can educate her in the ways of respectable gentlemen and ideally even end up getting her hetero again?

Eh, maybe it's just me, but I imagine most lesbians just think that girls understand each other better, so why bother with guys? Maybe all they need is to trust guys a bit more, that's all.

same with gay guys right? ;d

[L[0ne]R]

same with gay guys right? ;d

Eh, very possible. D:
Though it's probably easier to be a lesbian than gay, because girls are more.. beautiful. But I'm not a girl, so I can't say for sure how they really feel towards other girls.

[Oddisy]

The best answer is to not post here at all. You need to decide for yourself what to do.

[Liber Lupus]

thanks everyone....the "move on" advice i was expecting, but im lookin for other options.

...what other options? You're gonna act as her friend hoping that she will somehow magically change her orientation and find out what a 'nice guy' you are? Life is harsh...that only works in movies. If she'd be straight, that might be another story....

But if you're really that pathetic and desperate after your lesbian friend... try this But her being into girls is going to make this a tad more complicated. I doubt you could pull it off

[Graham]

Seems people need to remember they have a pair and move on. This isn't r9k, whine somewhere else.

[smiluu]

yeah but what would someone do in a situation like this?

You can also try putting yourself in her shoes:

-Youre lesbian.
-You feel like your intestines are penetrating out. It's about minutes till an ultimate diarhea thunderstorm appears.
-Then someone comes to offer you his glansy ureter.
If you dont feel like having sex with her, thats just because you feel sick by only watching her. Nothing gay there.
Talk to her? Nah, I'd let her rest and at times bring her some baby chow.

[demoniac93]

Damn, hope you don't get friend-zoned, shit's a pain in the ass, and guts.

[jerich]

thanks everyone....the "move on" advice i was expecting, but im lookin for other options.

Your options are dictated by your actions. If you don't make a move at all, you'll be put in check-mate. Friend zone.

Don't look to us for advice to tell you what you WANT us to tell you, just do it.